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What My Wife Up To By Doing All These..?

My wife stopped nagging about everything. She to nag about me not help with the chores, about law sex drive, about me not being a good dad to our 2yr old and to my daughter from previous marriage. Now she joined a health club got new job, got new look new hair color dress sexier. She is 24 I’m 33, married 3yr. She hugs out with her married girl friends every Fri night. She hired a cleaning lady a few times a week. She cooks dinner every night and she sends lunch to my job every day. She also makes breakfast for me. She no longer wants to have sex with me, she says she lost the sex drive. Is she cheating?

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duh!!!! You think!!!! Wake up!!!!!
I don't know if she's cheating or not, but she got sick of nagging you to do what you should have been doing by yourself. Now she's changing what she can, and she's possibly trying to lead by example.
I couldn't blame her. Maybe she decided to be with someone who actually understands the English language and can write above a fourth grade level.
Sounds like she's trying to improve herself - sounds great! Maybe it's a hint for you to do the same.
Dont think soo.. Seems like shess nice to you... sends you lunch to your job
she is cheating I think!! I ask her!!
Whoo hooo!
If you had really cared about her before she started doing all this you wouldn't be asking the question.
Could be.But maybe she just wants to have fun. She's only 24 and that's pretty young, maybe she just wants to be young and hang out again like she used to when she was a teen. You've probably already had a kid so maybe she's just got bored and she's giving you a break from her nagging. Try to ask her what's up
In my opinion when someone starts doing all these nice things they didn't do before they are making up for something they are doing outside the house.i would say she is but the only way to really find out is to ask her.You will know by her reaction if she is or not.
This doesn't read right, pretty sure this is a fake question.
LOL sounds like she got sick of waiting around for you.
How are we supposed to know if she's cheating?? I mean its a possibility. I think that's something you are going to have to figure out for yourself... and if you must, hire a PI. Also don't jump to conclusions about this. I am 24 and I am no where close to loosing my sex drive, so I don't know what her deal is with that, but at the same time... everyone is different. I must say this... she is a lucky woman. I would love to have an older guy like that!!! Good luck dear
All signs point to yes. The classic, tell tale symptoms are all there. You know, anger and nagging are not the worst things to endure from your spouse. What you really need to worry about is indifference. That is the killer.
It sounds like she's taking responsibility for her own happiness. I know that before I started getting my body into shape I nagged my husband all the time, and once I started looking and feeling better, I had the tendency to get off of his back, as well. Maybe she's working on becoming the best wife possible. I say good for your wife, and don't read more into it than is actually there.
I don't know....Don't assume what you don't know. Of course your wife will not tell you she is cheating on you but I would start being more curious about her activities
She is either cheating on you or simply given up on you and decided to make the best of her life that she can without really needing you.
sounds like she's freed herself.
It's hard to say, maybe she has a "plumbing" problem and is making up for the lack of a sex drive. Sit her down and talk, not whine, about what you feel. Suggust she see a doctor, if its a women problem. If you're suspicions continue hire a Private investigator. And buddy learn to write a coherent question, i had to read it three times before it made sense, your spelling is awful, and it shows a lack of education.
ah, i dont think so but she's so young maybe she's not attracted to you in that way anymore maybe she just really loves you now. without the sex. but you should worry about your self are you sure that your okay with not having sex. well, as long as she's doing good and your doing good, then its cool beans well, anyway if all that doesnt help then one day ask her where she is going tonight and, be real nice. see what she says like exactly where. what resteraunt or bar or whatever it may be. then go thier. about 20 minutes after she leaves and see if she was thier i know its sneaky but if you must know, and if you dont see her describe her to a waitress or someone who works thier and see if they have seen her. sooo, i hope this helps but i really dont think she's cheating. ; )
not neccesarily. a lot of women lose there sex drive. If she is cooking dinner, making your lunch and stuff like that. I do not believe she is cheating on you. One of the reasons why women lose their sex drive is because they tend to stress out more than men. 9not saying that men do not stress out) and at the end of the day. all we want to do is just relax. If it is really bothering you, maybe you should try doing something romantic for her. for example, when she comes home from work, have the kids to bed, have dinner cooked, and a candle lit bath. I guarantee you she will love it. And it is a sure thing that you will have sex taht night
nagging lol my husband says that! Nagging is showing she cares, when she is nagging she is interested, she wanted you involved. If she has lost the will to nag and that means she prob doesn't care in the same way. I would get in there quick and grovel or she'll be off to find someone else.
Maybe what you need to do is come home from work and help her without being asked!! The sexy clothes, hair, job-- its all things she can control After trying to change you for three years im sure shes fed up.
Wow, You need to confront her. Sounds like shes running the show. In charge of everything, including your sex, bad very bad.
It sounds to me that there could be a good possibility of seeing other men. Or maybe she hasn't cheated yet, but she is looking for something more. The new makeover and wardrobe is a sure sign that she wanted to clean her life up. Maybe to her you're what's holding her back and she can do better. If she was constantly having to get after you about cleaning up and helping with chores, and kids, well maybe she just got fed up with it. Maybe deep down she believes she can do better and find someone who is more respectful to her needs. Sex is a very important role in a marriage. Being 24 years old and already having been married for 3 years is a huge sacrifice. She would have been the age I am now. Maybe if you don't want to lose her you should clean yourself up too. She's young enough to transition her life. Her life hasn't even completely started yet.
Yes! But you cheated first, by not cherishing your wife. Why were you being such a fool? Here's what you do. Do not ask her about the affair - you don't want to know. Ask her for a list of chores that she wants you to do each week and start doing them. Go work out and use Viagra if you have to. Ask her how you can be a better father - and do it. Take her out on a date at least once every other week. After you do this for a month, this great young woman will be yours again. At your age and with her complaints about you, you will not do any better than her, so don't lose her.
The short answer is YES, or she is about to. When she was "nagging", In her mind she was "fighting FOR the relationship". Depending on what her top emotional needs are, which is sounds like: She wants help around the house. She wanted more sex. She wanted you to be more of a DAD. These are not uncommon expectations. The other things she is doing sounds like she is trying to "pacify" you. If you really want to get a grip on what is going on, try reading "Love Busters". Costs about $15 USD. It will open your eyes. I wish you the best.
think she just sorted everything for you coz she must of been fed up of lissening to her own voice nagging on. how does she have time to cheat. think if you dont pull your socks up she might. go back to helping her. tell her she looks great. if you love her you have to do something before you lose her. and get proof before you pull her up. coz that might just make matter alot worse. make her feel sexy tell her she sexy. you might put her in the mood. good luck to you.
positive thinking maybe she wasn't happy and had to change her perception on life/and you to be happy. Negitive. Yes she's cheating, not nagging and you're still getting lunch everyday. I'd say you win either way
YES! But at least you are getting some decent meals....
she is not up to anything she just feels that it a waste of words and time to keep complaining to you about things that you dont do when you dont even make and effort to try to correct the things that she is nagging about obviously you dont care
Well she could possibly be, but then again she may not be yet! I'm not saying this is the case or not, but she may be looking for attention. She may feel that she isn't feeling desired or appriciated. But I know how it is with kids, I am a married 25 year old with 2 kids. And believe me my sex drive has dropped alot, but alot of other things have changed also. I stay at home with my kids & I want to get get a job somedays, because I feel like I want to do more to help my husband. But he don't want me to have to work, unless I need to. I also like to make myself look good by getting highlights & it also makes me feel better about myself. Even exerciseing to try to make me feel better about myself. Especially when we get around other women that haven't had kids, that are very pretty with a nice body. It makes me feel undesirable, but my husband always tells me I'm sexy & all that. I do believe that has alot to do with my sex drive also. Which could be your wives problem. But I will tell you I have not ever thought about cheating on my husband though. So your wife could just me feeling the way I do. My advice to you is to talk to her often & tell her how sexy & beautiful you think she is, it helps. Also when you are at places together DON'T check out other women, it makes it worse. Well I hope I was some help. I wish you & your wife the best.