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Cheated with a married woman. How can I handle the husband?

I’m a personal trainer at this fitness center. I have been personal training this older but very beautiful woman (she’s 32) for some time now. She’s married to some medical doctor... But anyway, about a week ago, when I tried leaving work I was having some car trouble. The lady happened to be leaving when I was so she offered me a ride back to my apartment. Anyway, I ended up inviting her up for dinner as a way of thanking her for the ride. We ended up chatting for a few hours or so…. And then things went south and we ended up having sex… Now, things have been getting really weird. Whenever I am at work, I always catch her husband staring at me a lot. I pretend not to notice but the man is always mad dogging. And yesterday, when I was sitting outside my apartment, I saw her husband drive by my place three times. I have a feeling that the husband knows I slept with his wife… How should I handle the situation? I know I’m wrong for giving in to my temptations, but I couldn’t control my urges. Now I’m afraid I’m going to lose my job over this sh**it. I seriously don't need anymore drama in my life at this point.... And I'm not 32, she is. I'm 24.

Public Comments

1. He should beat the crap out of you and get you fired. After all, you helped cause all this drama.
2. Let us pray.... Our Father........
3. That's just something you dont do.. Now he is going to beat your ass.. Your 32 get some damn common sense. EDIT: Well you are still grown you really need to grow up. . . . .. .. . . . . . . . . . . ,.-‘”. . . . . . . . . .``~., . . . . . . . .. . . . . .,.-”. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .“-., . . . . .. .. . . . . ..,/. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . ”:, . . . .. . . . .. .,?. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .\, . .. . . . . . . . /. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . ,} . . . . . . . . ./. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . ,:`^`.} . . . . . . . ./. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . ,:”. . . ./ . . . . . . .?. . . __. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . :`. . . ./ . . . . . . . /__.(. . .“~-,_. . . . . . . . . . . . . . ,:`. . .. .. ./ . . . . . . /(_. . ”~,_. . . ..“~,_. . . . . . . . . .,:`. . . . _/ . . . .. .{.._$;_. . .”=,_. . . .“-,_. . . ,.-~-,}, .~”; /. .. .} . . .. . .((. . .*~_. . . .”=-._. . .“;,,./`. . /” . . . ./. .. ../ . . . .. . .\`~,. . ..“~.,. . . . . . . . . ..`. . .}. . . . . . ../ . . . . . .(. ..`=-,,. . . .`. . . . . . . . . . . ..(. . . ;_,,-” . . . . . ../.`~,. . ..`-.. . . . . . . . . . . . . . ..\. . /\ . . . . . . \`~.*-,. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . ..|,./.....\,__ ,,_. . . . . }.>-._\. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .|. . . . . . ...`=~-, . .. `=~-,_\_. . . `\,. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .\ .. . . . . . . . . .`=~-,,.\,. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .\ . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . `:,, . . . . . . . . . . . . . `\. . . . . . ..__ . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .`=-,. . . . . . . . . .,%`>--==`` . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . _\. . . . . ._,-%. . . ..
4. Hope that you can fight allot better than he can, and maybe all your fitness training will help u dodge bullets
5. I have no idea how you handle an irate husband after you slept with his wife. Your job and your safety are at risk. If you do not want more drama - then don't do stupid things that create the max in drama. And I'm sorry - but yes you can control your urges - you CHOSE not to. Life is made up of our choices - large and small.
6. your a grown man... you cant just go around being a home wrecker! im sure he knows if he is driving by your house 3 X's!!!
7. You know that sleeping with her was a mistake.. good for you. the only thing that you can do now is to avoid being alone with her, do not encourage her if she lets on that she wants it to continue and if it comes to it..refer her to another physical trainer, do not have any contact with her what so ever and if the husband confronts you, be honest with him. you may end up with a black eye, but at least he will know what it was. once he has dealt with you, he will deal with his wife in his own way.
8. Well stop creating it. Gain control over your urges and do the moral thing next time. You knew what you were doing while you were doing it. You didn't care about your job or her husband then. He has a right to be mean mugging you. I hope that and the drive by's are is far as it goes. You don't know who and what you're dealing with now a days. Maybe you should lose your job, then next time temptation presents it's pretty little butt around, you'll make moral/professional choices. You get no sympathy from me, learn the lesson behind all this because if you don't you will repeat it.
9. Well, you CAN'T handle him. You made your bed, now you have to sleep in it. Hey, she was a pig & you could have decided to not be a pig too. Check yourself for STD's & stay out of his way. And stay away from his wife & any other wife permanently. Next time, think about where you stick your d*ck.
10. Sorry to say but you should never have invited her into your apartment. You should never have slept with her. Now unfortunately your going to have to deal with a very pissed off husband. If by the way your saying the term 'older' to a 32 year old woman... you must be a baby. Last but not least if you didn't need anymore drama in your life well buddy sorry to say but you took the cake!
11. You're on your own. That's what you get for being a married woman's lover.
12. Tell him she forced herself on you. You are supposedly a personal trainer, and you are afraid of a doctor? lol Nice story, but I don't believe it.
13. So many thoughts, where to begin? She did you because she thought you were hot, and she was bored. She told her husband about it, to see if he could "kick it up a notch". Instead, he's P'oed at you. Obviously you & she are both wrong for doing that. Not a huge epiphany there. Offer to have him out for a beer, man to man. Tell him you realize you were a fool to get sucked into her game, and tell him why you will never do that again. Does that sound like a plan? Do you have the stones to pull it off? Be prepared to negotiate, or fight. It could go a number of ways.
14. you deserve to get your a$$ kicked btw, im 25- 32 is not old get over yourself
15. I would sleep with one eye OPEN!!!! Sucks to be you, BUT YOU HAD A CHOICE!!!!!!!!